Monday, January 21, 2008

Interesting report on delaying mother/parenthood

on KUHF this morning.

It's almost scary how much this is like our reasons. I'm not saying that anyone who hasn't chosen what we have is wrong, just that we're not the only ones who really, really, really wanted to wait. Of course, there are pros and cons to both (being younger or being older).

It's just kind of reassuring to know that we're not the only ones.


dmd said...

No matter how long you wait, I'll always be light years behind you so there's that.

Julie said...

There's the flip side of this, though, which is women who wait until their late thirties and then find it very difficult to conceive and go through months of fertility treatments and IVF or IUF. I've had two friends do this recently and luckily it had a happy ending, but at least one of them had been married for 10 years before they decided to have a baby. Anyway, there's nothing wrong with waiting, (or not waiting for that matter), but I think you have to be prepared that if you wait too long it just might not happen. Unfortunately our bodies don't always get the message that we have other things to do first!

Kate said...

Julie, I do hear you that your chances of conceiving do decrease as you get older, but I'm willing to risk it. I think that if it's meant to be it will happen when it does. Maybe I was infertile when I was 18. You never know. I've had a number of friends who went through infertility in their mid-late 20's and early-30's.

I think it really is a question of what is best for each mother/couple. And unfortunately, sometimes if you wait, your body won't work with you. Or if you have babies when you're young and fertile, you might not be as mature (not that all young moms are immature, just that I was immature when I was young). Ultimately, you weigh the options and then roll the dice. Hopefully we'll (all) get lucky!